And what of "Sunday School"?

As a former “Sunday School” teacher and parent, I need to ask where topics like these reviewed here show up in educating children. I see the need to begin teaching children certain principles that just happen to go along with Judeo-Christian values. You know… the whole “right/wrong” thing. What are the bare-bones minimums that should be taught to children in light of us adults deconstructing what we were taught? Clarity needs to rule, but I’ve seen so many programs that are so light and fluffy that they don’t end up teaching even the basics. This dilemma of “Sunday School” has actually hampered our search for a new church. Thank you for your insights!

Won't somebody please think of the children?!

I think this is well worth discussing (the allusion to the Simpsons is not meant to be flippant!) but I’m not sure where to begin. Not with Revelation, that’s for sure!

We had a stab at the topic a year ago (see ‘Children in church’) but didn’t get very far. I suspect that part of the problem is that we haven’t really worked out what or how we should be teaching adults yet, let alone children. I wonder, though, now that you pose the question, whether addressing the challenge of teaching children might not help us to bring clarity to our thinking.

It must surely be the case that our current need to ‘deconstruct’, as you put it, arises at least in part because of the way in which the Christian worldview was originally inculcated in us as children. To what extent, then, do we perpetuate the sacred-secular dualism, for example, by the way we teach Bible stories? To what extent do we reinforce western individualism by assuring our children that God loves them and has a plan for their lives?

It seems to me that a key emphasis should be on nurturing a sense of being part of a community that has a history (a narrative) and a calling in the world (mission). Perhaps we could learn something from the way traditional communities (such as tribal groups) teach their children what it means to belong to the group and participate in its life and culture. How are children normally socialized?

These are merely random thoughts in the hope of stimulating a bit more discussion. Anyone?

Kids

It must surely be the case that our current need to ‘deconstruct’, as you put it, arises at least in part because of the way in which the Christian worldview was originally inculcated in us as children.

I couldn’t agree with Andrew more on this point. Evangelical Christianity tends to try to indoctrinate children with “religious truth” while ignoring the greater truth of life. As a result, children like me experience a kind of relational dichotomy that has irreconcilable consequences. I was taught to be a certain type of person while the world I lived in demanded an entirely different kind of person.

This frustrated me and ultimately led to a reconciliation process, during which I rejected many of the tenets of the faith and abandoned it for awhile. Praise God that I was able to return to the Lord and redefine myself by His Word rather than by some traditional teaching concept.

Our church now caught in a weird kind of state in which I, being the pastor, am pushing for a radical approach in the way we integrate our kids while some of the older “members” want to stick to the “tried and true” even though it hasn’t worked for centuries. (hyperbole)

I think a lot of the problem stems from an old Victorian/Edwardian concept that pervades many churches - that children should be seen and not heard. Many want children to only absorb, without questioning. The problem is that true socialization comes from being actively involved in the cultural life of the community, not passively observant. Many children walk away from the faith because they need something to be involved in.

Wow. These two responses

Wow. These two responses really hit on where I was going with the question. I’m totally dissatisfied with what I’ve seen so far in children’s church, but it’s hard yet to know how to fix it.

pastorerik, your response is right on, because it reminded me of a bible study group we did once, where we brought the kids. We brought toys for them to play with, because they were very young. But, when it came time to pray, they’d be right there, in our laps. They were learning the importance of prayer.

They learned that shared meals are fun. They didn’t explicitly learn about the resulting bonding, but they experienced it. They belonged to the group.

We had no specific program for them, but they learned some of the things that I think “Sunday School” can’t teach.

And, now, I think of the dichotomy of which you speak… I am going through that state of rejection, and I know it’s because of the “absolute truth” that is now in question. Is there something to this that will help shape educating our children?

What about this dichotomy? Is the emergent church holding on to the concept that “we are not of this world?” I think it’s terribly harming to teach children that they’re not supposed to belong, and then force them to operate in a society…

There’s so much more in my head, but I want to hear from others, too! Thank you!

What about this dichotomy?

What about this dichotomy? Is the emergent church holding on to the concept that “we are not of this world?” I think it’s terribly harming to teach children that they’re not supposed to belong, and then force them to operate in a society…

I agree with you. There has to be a real sense in which the people of God is ‘not of this world’ - if the church is meant to be a new humanity in Christ, that must constitute a real difference. But I would understand ‘not of this world’ to mean something like set apart for the sake of the world - it entails an orientation out of love towards the creation, not away from it. That ‘towards’ must mean that we allow ourselves and our children to manifest, without a sense of shame, the fulness of created life - working, playing, exploring, creating. There is no reason to think that the ‘new creation’ is less wonderful, less diverse, less exciting, less magical and mysterious, less deeply and pervasively relational, than the world that God originally made good.

*applause Very well said.

*applause

Very well said. Thank you!

Now, how do we *do* this? ;-)

on school

I’ve been watching OST for quite a while without posting, so I’m not sure why this topic caught my eye except that I’m currently a high school teacher as well as a former Sunday School teacher. I also grew up in a Baptist church where Sunday School for all ages was considered essential.

I’m going to assume, for the sake of argument, that having separate Sunday School for children can be good.

I also ought to admit that, at least up until high school, I always like Sunday School. So it’s easy for me to draw from my own childhood some good things.

Or, I should say, one really good thing: I know the stories.

I think, from the time I started up to junior high, we did little else. Every week there was a Bible story. Sometimes, yes, there were cheesy felt-boards and wrong-headed blue-eyed Jesus pictures. But what stuck with me were the stories, and it was always obvious to me that those were the things that mattered.

So, that satisifies partly the first suggestion in Andrew’s list:

It seems to me that a key emphasis should be on nurturing a sense of being part of a community that has a history (a narrative) and a calling in the world (mission).

The times, I think, that my Sunday School went wrong was when it veered into a kind of limitation of those stories: e.g., emphasizing that they are “true” as opposed to “not true,” or artificially abstracting them into moral principles. I think the important thing has to be to give children a sense of the sort of narrative authority of Scripture; that we should behave in certain ways because it fits the continuation of the story that God has put us in (Wright’s 5th Act idea), not because it is right in some universal, abstract sense.

How do you teach that? Is it ever appropriate, for example, to tell a Bible story and then say, “So, boys and girls, what did we learn from this story?”

Aside from Bible stories, I think that Sunday School ought to tell the story of the Church; that is, kids ought to learn a little bit about church history. That’s something that is, I think, sorely lacking in a lot of evangelical Sunday School classes that I’ve seen. I grew up having a great sense of the stories of the Bible, but having no idea what exactly this whole church thing was.

That second thing — the sense of mission — is important as well. And maybe we would do well not to separate that from the traditional moral teachings of Sunday School. And all that really means is making “right and wrong” say a great deal more than what is right and wrong in terms of individual things like violence and obeying your parents. But again, there’s the question of how you teach it.

I think there’s one last thing that ought to be mentioned. Rather than trying to teach children how to be adults, Sunday Schools should explicitly focus on nurturing childlike questions and explorations. As I got older, I remember there were more and more questions that you just weren’t supposed to ask. That’s no good. Whereas stopping and questioning things every few seconds in the midst of community worship (or liturgy, whatever church you’re in) could be destructive, questioning ought to be at the heart of Sunday School, as it is in any “school.”

Living our teaching

While the question “What should we teach?” is unquestionably valid and worthy of discussion, I think it is always important when we address this issue to remember what it means to model Christ-like virtue and lifestyle as well.

I have been a Sunday school teacher to young children for eight years and plan on being one for the remainder of my days. But I often reflect on the fact that if they learn all of the stories and verses, but learn them from someone who does not love them, it is kind of all for naught. And if my children learn relatively little throughout the year but leave saying, “My Sunday school teacher loves me,” then they are on the right path.

I am suspicious that this is one of the core problems that affect Sunday school ministries in the U.S., anyway. So go ahead and do the work of creating curriculum and teaching the faith. But do it in a way that manifests the love the Christ has for all of his little children.

Fantastic! Putting together

Fantastic! Putting together what you say with the whole “mission” and “purpose” makes it all make sense to me.

I was assuming that children’s education needed to take place separately, because, of course, they couldn’t possibly understand what the ‘big people’ were talking about.

Must we entertain our children with puppet shows while we “do serious worship” in “the big room?” Am I barking up the wrong tree?

After all, as in the small group/bible study example, my kids learned how to pray for others by participating at the big table, rather than watching Veggie Tales.

Thank you *so* much, everyone, for your insights! I feel so much better now, without knowing what the solution is. Bring on the curriculum, but I’ll still probably continue to plop little kids on my lap and read to them, then sing songs in a circle.

After all, is it more important to live Christ-like love, or have an audience devoid of squirming children and the occasional cry of a baby?

Childrens Ministries - Sunday School

My wife and I have been involved in children’s ministries for nearly 15 years. We have found that the best childrens ministries are full of fun and learning in practical ways, something traditional Sunday Schools don’t offer. Look at programs like Awanas or Royal Rangers and Missionettes. These programs run on Wednesday night and they mix games, camping skills, and bible study. These programs tend to draw leaders that have energy and love kids.

These type programs are also great for outreach. I started a van ministry and we brought 1000 kids to Wednesday night kids programs over 9 years with 3 or 4 vans. All of them were from homes where the parents did not go to church and most accepted Christ as saviour. We tried doing this for Sunday School and it never worked well. I think Sunday morning is a bad time for outreach.

I wish more adult ministries could generate this kind of draw and relevance to the community.

We tend to want to skip the adult services on Sundays and be involved in fun and practical childrens ministries on Wednesday nights.

Not to Offend...

But this is exactly the problem. It sounds to me like your adult ministries are completely irrelevant.

Out of curiosity, how many of these 1,000 kids that you’ve brought to your program have moved beyond “accepting Christ as Saviour”? How many are not mature, fully committed adult followers of Christ?

If our ministry is not intergenerational, then the children never learn that church is not about programs and adults are never exposed to their children’s faith. The family is the core of the church, not individuals. How often do we see “the house of…” in Acts? Because families were integral, and the church survived for 2000 years without kids’ programs. I think we pamper our children and bore our adults.

Relevance is more than programs - it is community.

Not offended

My wife were both exposed to Christ through childrens outreach programs and our parents were never interested in growing spiritually. Many of the kids that came on the vans had similar families. I have no idea how most of these kids are doing now as many were transient. Some forms of outreach do not allow us to see the end result.

I think chilrens programs with strong outreach do have their place to reach kids that won’t even get exposed to Christ without them.

I do agree that a better situation is to have families growing together but this is not always possible.

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